What admirable qualities attract you to your friends? What glues your relationships together?
I am by no means an expert on friendship. I've had a shit time with people through out my life. But I HAVE learned from it.
It doesn't take a lot to be my friend. I like giving everyone a chance. I'm accepting of differences... but I expect my friends to be too. I don't like seeing people hurt others just because they can. I don't like seeing people get used or using others. It's wrong. We're all human, we all want the same thing in life... happiness. So why do you have to screw other people over just to get it?
Friendship is a complicated thing, like so many other things in life. I'm a live and let live kind of person. I can respect someone's opinion even if I don't agree with it. I demand that respect in return. No exceptions. And not only that respect towards me, but towards others as well. If you have an opinion or belief.... you can tell me about it, or have a debate with me about it... but don't expect me to believe it or make it my own. If you can't accept that, then you probably aren't a friend of mine. (That's the main "quality" I look for in a friend since that's what that question asks)
However, what I really want to talk about is what friendship IS to me.
A friend is someone who is going to care about you for YOU. They aren't going to expect things from you, and they aren't going to make you feel inferior or bad about yourself. They aren't going to use you, or try and show you up. They won't be friends with you only to better their own status, or to humor you. It seems kind of obvious... but I know people who have "friends" that are like this, and it saddens me!
If there is one thing I've learned over the years and through all the drama I've dealt with, its this.
Don't settle for what you don't deserve! You deserve friends who are there for you and truely care for your well-being.
For me, friendship isn't about quantity, its about quality. Sure, I may not have THAT many friends, but the ones I have I know I can count on and trust. I don't settle for less. I've wasted enough of my time on people who were out for themselves. My time is my greatest gift and I'm not going to just hand it out freely.
Of course, you have to be a good friend too. You can't expect to have good friends when you aren't one yourself. I try to be a good friend. And whatever expectations I put in my friends, I follow myself. If the world was like this... things would be so much easier.
Friendship is a big thing to me... I've relied on friends a lot in my life. Up until recently, I was let down. It's not unheard of, and it hurts when it happens. But in the end you're a stronger person.
It doesn't take a lot to be my friend. I like giving everyone a chance. I'm accepting of differences... but I expect my friends to be too. I don't like seeing people hurt others just because they can. I don't like seeing people get used or using others. It's wrong. We're all human, we all want the same thing in life... happiness. So why do you have to screw other people over just to get it?
Friendship is a complicated thing, like so many other things in life. I'm a live and let live kind of person. I can respect someone's opinion even if I don't agree with it. I demand that respect in return. No exceptions. And not only that respect towards me, but towards others as well. If you have an opinion or belief.... you can tell me about it, or have a debate with me about it... but don't expect me to believe it or make it my own. If you can't accept that, then you probably aren't a friend of mine. (That's the main "quality" I look for in a friend since that's what that question asks)
However, what I really want to talk about is what friendship IS to me.
A friend is someone who is going to care about you for YOU. They aren't going to expect things from you, and they aren't going to make you feel inferior or bad about yourself. They aren't going to use you, or try and show you up. They won't be friends with you only to better their own status, or to humor you. It seems kind of obvious... but I know people who have "friends" that are like this, and it saddens me!
If there is one thing I've learned over the years and through all the drama I've dealt with, its this.
Don't settle for what you don't deserve! You deserve friends who are there for you and truely care for your well-being.
For me, friendship isn't about quantity, its about quality. Sure, I may not have THAT many friends, but the ones I have I know I can count on and trust. I don't settle for less. I've wasted enough of my time on people who were out for themselves. My time is my greatest gift and I'm not going to just hand it out freely.
Of course, you have to be a good friend too. You can't expect to have good friends when you aren't one yourself. I try to be a good friend. And whatever expectations I put in my friends, I follow myself. If the world was like this... things would be so much easier.
Friendship is a big thing to me... I've relied on friends a lot in my life. Up until recently, I was let down. It's not unheard of, and it hurts when it happens. But in the end you're a stronger person.
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